I believe that we are all born knowing what makes us happy and how to live our best life. However, living in society, among people and their rules, norms and expectations creates beliefs about what we should do or be. Often these beliefs are limiting and stop us from being who we want to be. Apart from creating limiting beliefs, we will also often set ourselves behavioural or emotional rules to live by depending on past experiences. All of these happen unconsciously. This makes it difficult to realise that we have any of these limiting beliefs or rules which is of course, a massive hurdle to overcoming them.
So, what is personal transformation?
Transformation is dramatic change and that happens when you realign your thoughts, beliefs and behaviours to serve you and your purpose.
My role, as your coach, will be to create a safe space, free of judgement, for you to explore and make lasting changes. Think about it, waking up every morning excited to begin the day and explore your untapped potential – that is what I want to help you achieve. How? By helping you see a clear picture of yourself, your thoughts, and beliefs and working to replace the ones that hold you back with ones that build you up.
Since personal transformation is changing the way you think and behave, it can be applied to every aspect of your life – right from performing better at work to improving your relationships and even losing weight or increasing your productivity. Internal transformation results in output that can then be seen and experienced externally.
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Why do we have limiting beliefs?
We are a product of our experiences. We perceive the world based on our past experiences and no two people have the same experiences. A classic example of this is how different people would react to a dog running toward them. Someone who has been bitten by a dog in the past will be terrified – convinced that the dog means to attack them. Another person who has had good experiences with dogs will be thrilled to play or pet the dog and there might be others who don’t care either way. One dog performing one action but interpreted as different-by-different people based on their past experiences. This is how our reality is shaped by our past experiences.
Similarly, as children, we are often given a set of rules and beliefs to follow. Some examples of these are:
· Money is a necessary evil
· Money makes people evil
· Girls must be caring
· Boys don’t cry
· A woman’s life is incomplete unless she is a wife and mother
· A man has the responsibility to earn and support his family
· You must adjust to bad marriages, bad colleagues and bosses and bad environments
We don’t often realize when we start believing these words but when we do, we will often act to make it true. The easiest one to deal with is money. When you believe something to be true, your mind will look for ways to validate it. You must have noticed, (AI targeted ads aside) when you learn something new you will see that in many places. For example, one of the things I have worked on for myself is the belief that money makes you a bad person. After replacing this thought I have found increasing evidence of people who have used their wealth to make life better for a lot of people. I realized money itself is just energy and people can use it for good or bad – just like anything else. Similarly, when I believed that money was bad, I saw a lot of evidence of money being used to do bad things or people’s greed for money making them do terrible things.
Therefore, changing our thoughts and beliefs is vital to personal growth and transformation. Very often our beliefs and thoughts are about our own abilities – “I am useless” or “I can’t do anything right.” These are thoughts that have perhaps been implanted in our brains when we made a few mistakes as children. These thoughts hold us back as adults and can be detrimental to every sphere of our lives.
Having experienced and overcome a lot of limiting beliefs and negative thoughts in my life, I am committed to helping people overcome their self-made obstacles to live their best life. I use CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy) to get to the root of the beliefs and to replace them. I also use Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). These are different modalities, and I am constantly updating and increasing my knowledge and skills to provide the best experience to my clients.
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